You don’t have to explain yourself. Really. I was in the grocery store the other day watching what was going on. Some people were completely enveloped in their social distancing routine – from not going down an aisle if someone else was anywhere nearby to wearing a mask and gloves to holding their breath.
Other people were not wearing masks or gloves and they were walking wherever they wanted, chatting with their friends, touching their faces…
Noticing this got me thinking…
When a client first starts out using their voice with family or friends (or whomever), one of the biggest hurdles to overcome is notion that when they use their voice, they have to get buy in from the person they’re using it with.
Most people don’t change their minds about anything
So, trying to get your mother to agree with you that she has no right to butt into your love life, isn’t going to work.
However, telling your mother that you do not want to talk about that – that’s simply setting a boundary, without judgement, and without needing her to agree with what you’re saying. You’re simply stating what is and isn’t ok with you in that moment.
You don’t have to explain yourself
When you start explaining WHY you need this boundary or WHY this boundary is justified, you move from standing in your power to giving someone else the power because you need their approval for that boundary (and most people won’t give that!).
For those of us that have a challenging time speaking up or standing up for ourselves, the current environment is giving us the perfect opportunity to simply use our voices. Whether you’re a glove-wearer or not, whether you feel comfortable at the gas pump or not – this is your chance to use your voice.
Just state your boundary and expect the world to heed it.
Love and Light,
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