Are you transparent enough?

One of the most simple, and yet challenging, things to do in this life is to be truly transparent. If you attended any of my classes or workshops in the past few years, you’ve surely heard me say this!

But what does being transparent really mean, and how could it possibly help you in your every day life?

I always look at transparency as being as completely honest as you can about your feelings – even if those feelings may not reflect what is being expected of you to deliver.

Here are some examples of transparency as it has shown up in my life recently:

“Wow! I’ve never spoken in front of this many people before. I’m a bit nervous!”

“I am really not understanding this bit of psychic information I’m receiving. I’m confused by it actually. I need to go back and try to figure out what it really means.”

“I know I said I would have this done by Monday, but I’ve been thinking and thinking about it and am only just now feeling ready to send it over to you.”

Now, my life may look a little different from your life, but you’re starting to get the picture right?

Being transparent takes so much of the pressure off! When you admit the feelings that you’re having, it’s like you’re saying, “Hey, I’m human and I know I’m not perfect and that’s all right!”

So many people want to appear as experts at all times.Whether it’s an expert business person, an expert intuitive, an expert mom or dad… it doesn’t really matter, we’re taught that we’re always supposed to be in control and have the answer.

But the truth is we don’t. No one knows what they’re doing all the time, no one has it THAT much together (and if they do – that’s definitely something to question!).

When you share your truth (and your truth includes those deep down feelings!) of what is really going on with you – it actually aligns people with you. They no longer expect you to “perform” because you’ve allowed them to see that you’re human.

Often the truth I share about myself is about how goofy I know I am when I’m making videos for my work. But owning that goofiness has ended up serving me well! (i.e. Being transparent!)

It’s so much easier to just be human and not perfect! To make your way through life, doing your best, but knowing (and sharing) that you’re really just figuring it out as you go, and that’s OK.

That’s how I do it, too. When I’m on top of my game, that’s when I’m the most transparent – because I can remind myself that even though I may be an expert in some areas of my life – it’s still OK not to know what I’m doing!

The next time you find yourself struggling to get it right or have the answer, perhaps you can remind yourself, too, that transparency is your friend!

Please share your experiences with transparency below!

Love and Light,


2 replies
  1. Melissa Dunstan
    Melissa Dunstan says:

    I’m struggling with this in my business. As a portrait and pet photographer, I try really hard to be everything to everyone, and end up taking jobs because I need the money. I’ve been trying to make the transition into just being a pet photographer, because that’s where my love and passion is, but I’ve been putting on a face online to attract everyone. It’s time for me to be me, and I needed this encouragement at this time. Thank you!

  2. Steve
    Steve says:

    Danielle, you are so right!
    I have been struggling with a relationship issue between my daughter and my girlfriend for over 2 years now. I have let this fester and sit for for way too long now. It is an issue that can’t be fixed or resolved to everyone’s happiness, but I’ve been afraid to confront the issue with my daughter for fear of losing her love. I have allowed my girlfriend to sit with soulful pain and open wounds over this and have not had the fortitude to deal with this directly and defend our love and devotion to each other. I’m between a rock and a hard place on this and need to set the record straight or lose both relationships in the end. Thank you for your wisdom and timeliness on transparency. The Universe is truly wonderful in sending messages to help!


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