The recent long holiday weekend was a challenge for me. Really. Not because family was visiting (they were) or because they stayed for many days (which they did), not because it made it more difficult for me to get some “down time” (which it did) and not because I had to attend nine million hockey games (which I did). Thanksgiving was hard for me because of the food. Yep, that’s right – the food. Those of you who have worked with me repeatedly already know this – but for those who don’t – I keep myself on a very strict diet intended to keep me clear, calm and grounded. After all, if I wasn’t clear (if I was stuffing myself with as much lava cake as I would really like to) I wouldn’t be able to be the conduit that I am everyday in my work AND I wouldn’t be able to be a very effective mom, wife and human outside of work.
What’s nice about my diet is that it was created through communication with my guides and it is completely tailored to my needs. For example, many people can eat chocolate and become more grounded – but for me, it (oh-so-sadly) takes me right out of my body and makes it hard to concentrate. So, no chocolate for me. Potatoes are another one. I have plenty of clients who can eat baked potatoes or french fries every once in a while – but not me. Again – POP! I’m out of my body, unable to function well.
When Thanksgiving rolled around this year, I had planned on being extra careful so as to maintain my clarity and grounding by staying in constant contact with my intuitive side. I actually got off to a great start and “knew” that it was OK to try a couple dalliances here and there. Based on connection with my guides beforehand, I thoughtfully added mashed potatoes into my Thanksgiving meal. It was off my diet but my guidance said that if I kept things in check, I would still feel good and mostly clear. That was if I kept things in check!
And I didn’t. I really, really didn’t. I took one bite and went “Oh wow! I have missed this! I shouldn’t have to miss this!” In the first three minutes of the meal, I had eaten more than two cups of mashed potatoes which easily contained a half container of Earth Balance in them. I just kept going – shoveling them into my mouth spoonful after spoonful. I finally stopped, not because I intuitively knew I should (by that time I was ignoring all intuitive advice) but because it didn’t look like there would be enough left for everyone else who hadn’t even finished serving themselves yet! No joke. The result was that I felt completely off balance and unclear (translation: cranky) and had to go upstairs to my bedroom and lay down for the next three hours. I missed out on the rest of the holiday.
Why am I writing this humiliating story? I simply wanted you to learn from my mistake. Like me, there are a lot of people who will make decisions about what to eat this time of year based on emotions (“I’m having such a great time! I can eat whatever I want!) or feelings of deprivation (“I’ve been good for the past week, I deserve this treat”) and even on anger (“Screw them all, I’m doing what I want.”) My mistake was in the vein of all three really. PHEW!
So, the lesson here is one you’ve heard me say before:
Decisions made through emotions take you the long route home.
Clarity and balance again turn out to be the most important factor in a successful holiday meal (as well as a family visit, a Christmas party, a Hanukkah get-together and whatever else you’ll be doing). If you find yourself going off-balance, just step back for a moment, take some deep breaths and clear yourself. I know I wish I had – and I know I’ll be doing that for Christmas dinner in a few weeks!