My new shirt

by Danielle MacKinnon

personal beliefIt’s funny how so many of us don’t realize how motivated we are by our own negative personal belief. We think it’s just “the way” we are when really, there’s much more at play!  Even in the most inane places. Here’s an example of what I’m talking about.

For years, I’ve been working to shift my negative belief of “I’m not safe, supported, and protected” in the world to ” I am totally safe, completely protected, and supported fully by the universe.” Growing up, this negative belief was a driving force behind many (OK ALL) of my decisions.

As I’ve worked on my Soul Contracts and beliefs, I’ve shifted the needle on this belief so that it no longer makes all my decisions for me – and I’m much happier because of that! However, it still shows up in some places.

For example, when I have a new shirt that I really, really like, I will often NOT wear it.

Seems weird right? Why not wear something that I love?

It’s because, since I still have remnants of not feeling supported in the world, I don’t exactly trust that the universe will ever make another shirt like that, that I love. So, in order not to wear it out, I choose to wear other clothing.

Weird right? Even though I’ve done lots of work around this negative belief, since I haven’t shifted it to a 100% that I AM fully safe, supported, and protected, I’m presented with small opportunities to call it out and work on it.

What negative beliefs do you have? What weird ways do they show up in your life? As you’ve worked on this, have things changed? Let me know here!

Love & Light,

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14 replies
  1. Barb
    Barb says:

    That’s interesting in my experience I generally will buy two of something in the event That something happens to the first one. For me I think it’s a little bit of a lack belief although I have always felt totally supported by the universe and never experienced lack in my life.
    In the past I’ve decided I’m not buying two but what I will do is replace one and keep the replacement instead of giving it away or throwing it away.
    oh boy I believe I’m getting closer to whatever it is, still not sure keeping me in this having two mode.

  2. Jackie
    Jackie says:

    Danielle, I do the same thing I buy something that I love but then I don’t wear it. One, I don’t want to wear it out and two, it’s usually so much nicer than my other stuff I don’t want people to judge me.

  3. Isabel
    Isabel says:

    That is SO like me!! This very same negative belief makes me do the exact same thing… I love this shirt or this pair of jeans so much that I won’t wear it… or on very special occasion! So I end up wearing clothes that are ok but that don’t make my heart sing at all! The other thing that I do that I realized just a few weeks ago is that I packed my basement with kleenex, paper towel and other stuff like that just in case…!! The world could end that I would still be able to blow my nose for the next 10 years!! And these items are not special like my favourite pair of jeans, they are actually quite easy to find. But my negative belief makes me planned way ahead and ensure that all the angles are covered. Despite all the work I did on myself, a part of me still believe that I have to do it all by myself and provide for everything I need. Thank you for sharing this story Danielle!

  4. Erica
    Erica says:

    OMG didn’t realize I did the same thing. Bought clothing but I don’t wear it but it more about others seeing me wearing it and shining. Bringing attention to myself, that is not always positive.

  5. Belinda H
    Belinda H says:

    I too do the clothing thing…and worse than that I never finish a book because I don’t want it to end. I get so completely lost in a book and emotionally connected that I don’t want it to be over! I have so many books with bookmarks half way thru piled up next to my bed and on bookshelves. My family thinks I’m nuts because…I keep buying books I think I’m going to finish! My weird haha 😉

    • Danielle MacKinnon
      Danielle MacKinnon says:

      Wow – I’ve never seen the “not finishing the book” method before. I love learning new ways that people hold themselves back due to their negative beliefs. And you know what? How wonderful is it that you have realized this about yourself? It’s the first step to growth! <3

  6. Sharon E.
    Sharon E. says:

    I also have the belief that the Universe is not a safe place. You and others are saying that “you are working on it”. HOW? What techniques does one use to release limiting beliefs?

    • Danielle MacKinnon
      Danielle MacKinnon says:

      I’ve created two techniques Sharon! My Soul Contracts book and my Animal Lessons book both lay out specific steps for working on the negative beliefs. Hope they help! <3

  7. Leslie
    Leslie says:

    I have the feeling that there will never be enough. Silly because there always has been just enough. Also I save new dishes and cutlery and use the old stuff. I won’t be able to replace the new dishes and cutlery. I don’t think this comes from this life, but I am only focusing on this life now.

  8. Erin
    Erin says:

    I have always had medical fears. Such as “if I exercise too hard could I have a heart attack?” They are pretty irrational or rather I automatically go to the worse case scenario. Definitely trying to trust the universe that it will take care of me if it is in my best interest.

  9. Patty Daley
    Patty Daley says:

    I have some really strange neighbors. The people that come and go from this drug house scare me. I often find myself in fear of them. But in all my 15 years here, they never once have harmed me in any way, shape or form. There is a bigger fear behind ‘them’. It’s the “I am not fully protected and safe” fear. I fear because I have worked for 60 years to finally have a small piece of property and a small and humble home all to myself. I also protect my animals like they were my kids and love them fiercely. My fears regarding these people, as unstable and crazy as they are, are unfounded. My fear of what “might” happen are making me miserable. I have been working on flipping that fear. I recently read this phrase “Surrender brings peace” and think that is a rather Buddhist way of thinking of it. Surrender being of course in my mind. Surrender to the idea that I am okay, and do not fight it. Do not ‘push the river’. Big topic! Thanks for the food for thought.

    • Helena
      Helena says:

      Wow! That is so brave of you Patty! To dare to see beyond prejudices. Love it! It really struck a chord with me as I recognise these (unproved) fears of people or situations that has actually never happened. Greetings from Sweden <3

      • Patty Daley
        Patty Daley says:

        Helena, thank you!! and hello from New Mexico! My heritage is that I have two great grandparents from Sweden! :bow: Yeah, I have to tell myself ‘how have I been harmed by the drug-neighbors actions? Oh, I have not!” It still takes work to not be in fear because they are noisy and very active twice a month and it scares everyone in the neighborhood. But I must be the antenna of love and light to hold it together, and then just observe. Whew! It can be hard work! 😉


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