Embarrassing socks

by Danielle MacKinnon

Crossfit versus Barre: Embarrassing socksI’ve decided to move on from my daily Crossfit workout and now I’ve taken up Barre. And I totally love it!

It’s working better for my body as Crossfit seemed to be geared toward people who were not long and tall like I am (most people think I’m short before they meet me, but I’m 5’10”). This Barre stuff… it seems to be geared right toward my body type!

However, it’s bringing up a little of my old stuff – and I’m taking that as an opportunity to shift my beliefs about myself even further.

Growing up, I was weird. Or, at least I always felt weird. I was super sensitive, I was “picking up” on what other people were thinking and feeling and I was connecting with animals in ways that no one around me thought was possible.

All of these things combined to make me feel pretty uncomfortable in my skin.

As a result, I spent a lot of time trying to be like everyone one else. I wanted to dumb down my sensitivity, dress like everyone else, behave like everyone else.

But when you’re not like everyone else, it’s really hard to “blend in.” I constantly thought my differences were my weaknesses and I looked to be as invisible as possible.

As I grew older and I started working on my negative self-beliefs and soul contracts, I was able to make great headway on the “I’m not good enough” belief that I held and my subsequent “stay out of the limelight” soul contract.

Case in point: I’m writing this email to you. That’s not very hidden now is it?!

And I always tell people that their goal should only be to incrementally shift their negative beliefs about themselves – rather than change it all in one fell swoop. It’s more realistic and sustainable.

So, this whole Barre thing is bringing another level on the “I’m not good enough” belief up for me. And, while I’m kind of embarrassed to admit what it’s about, I will. It’s about clothing.

In my old Crossfit gym, I realize now that I had assimilated to the loud, big, boldness of the clothing. Bright red shoes, orange shirts, short shorts… I don’t know – maybe it was something about working out with “heavy” weights – but it is a workout system that is very much about show: like show your big muscles! Grunt! Be strong and badass!

(And don’t get me wrong – I still love Crossfit. It just wasn’t working for my own body type. My husband still goes 5-6 times a week and he adores it! Although, I did recently make the rule that he can only talk about Crossfit once a day because… I’m good with hearing about it all the time LOL!)

Barre is more of an internal workout. Rather than moving big heavy weights, you’re more in your head, moving your leg or abs or butt 1-2 inches at a time. It’s pretty incredible how sore I get from these 1-inch movements!

But the attitude and the clothing and the whole darn thing is very different. In Barre, the clothing is more muted, there’s no grunting, and we get to work out in our socks…

I did Crossfit for almost four years which mean all of my workout clothing is still bold and bright and big and short and tight…

So, this morning as I sat in my Barre class, hanging on to the ballet barre, doing my “seat” work, I noticed that I was looking around at all the women in class. What is this one wearing? Where did that one get those cool tights? What a neat shirt this one has…

And I realized I was feeling “less than” simply because I was dressed differently from everyone else (Oh the embarrassing socks!). This is exactly how I used to feel in fifth grade… and sixth… and seventh… It’s a sadness and fear that I remember well.

The cool thing though is that as soon as I recognized that old feeling of “I don’t belong” coming up, I tagged it. “Oh look! Danielle this is you thinking you’re not good enough again so you want to hide!”

And as soon as I tagged it what happened? It went away. The feeling within me subsided. And I found myself laughing.

I laughed because I almost went down that old road again – and I laughed because just noticing that was enough to stop it. And I laughed because who cares what I wear!

So, all in all, it was a good day for me at Barre because I was AWARE.

Awareness is the key here. People think it’s not enough – that you have to do nine million steps plus have the secret recipe to make change – but that’s not true.

Just noticing what you’re doing and why is often enough to shift your mind, your situation, and your being. Little by little.

Give it a try and let me know what you think!

Love and Light,

5 replies
  1. TH
    TH says:

    It’s funny how our desire to fit in a group can be so strong. Love the Awareness! It’s nice to hear another perspective on the experience! I can feel when I make that shift… so freeing; love that you ended up laughing and letting it go. How wonderful.

    And you’ve encouraged me to try Barre! 🙂

  2. Lany
    Lany says:

    Your emails are the best. They make me laugh so I have a smile on my face for the rest of the day. Totally understand about Barre and the clothing. Been there, done that. Keep the emails coming. (Plus, can’t wait to hear what trips you’ll be taking this year!)

  3. JoAnn
    JoAnn says:

    You crack me up sometimes, I find myself laughing out loud at some of the things you write about because I see so much of myself in the things you say..thanks for your daily emails, I truly do enjoy them

  4. Debbie UK
    Debbie UK says:

    Am I the only one who is seriously ill and unable to do any of this fab getting fit stuff? I thought I was doing well by narrowly avoiding a Christmas stay in hospital. :o}

    When I am back off the steroids and multiple other meds I plan to go vegan…but currently keeping clean and cat happy is my limit in energy/keeping fit.

    Not that I am complaining….no, really I’m not….but a lot of people have been really ill over the holidays so I am giving a shout out to others like me who are also pleasantly surprised to still be here. (Including “my” 95 surrogate Mum/elderly)

    Wishing everyone a happy, healthy and ultimately fit 2017, where possible…

  5. Tracy Harris
    Tracy Harris says:

    I ABOLUTELY LOVE and read every (well just about ) email. You sound like me! And I am sure you hear that from many of your clients or from your emails, but you are helping me in ways you don’t even know…SIMPLY BY BEING YOU!! Which empowers me to be me! So, thank you…I love all the time you put into your writing. Please keep the advice coming. I am growing and learning and feeling like I have a new friend <3



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