Breaking a Soul Contract: Reclaim Your Power and Live Your Truth


Ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop, repeating patterns that don’t serve you? Maybe you’ve heard of Soul Contracts and wondered if they’re the reason behind your challenging experience.. Let’s dive deep into what Soul Contracts are, why they’re super important, breaking a soul contract, and tackle some common misconceptions. Spoiler alert: It’s not just about your relationships with others (like most people think); it’s really about the relationship you have with yourself. Intrigued? Let’s get to it!

What is my Soul Contract with my partner?  Everyone wants to know about the Soul Contract in their relationships. Why? Because many of us believe that when we understand the Soul Contract in a relationship, we’ll finally have a perfect relationship.

However, our Soul Contracts are only reflected onto our relationships – they are not actually between us and another person. They are more about the connection you have to… yourself!  As I talk about them in my Soul Contracts book, these sneaky agreements we make with ourselves can secretly prevent us from success in marriage, finance, business, money, love, home, and everywhere else. When a Soul Contract is involved, many of us become very confused and disheartened. If you feel stuck in a rut, this may be the culprit.

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Breaking a Soul Contract: Why Do It and How to Start

So, why would anyone want to break a Soul Contract? Well, imagine you’re carrying a backpack. Instead of it being filled with essentials like snacks and your favorite book, it’s loaded with rocks labeled “fear,” “insecurity,” and “doubt.” That’s what Soul Contracts can feel like — extra weight in areas like marriage, finances, and personal growth. Plus, there is a part, deep within you that tells you, you’re supposed to be carrying all these things around in your backpack! But guess what? Despite what that part of you says, you have the power to unpack those rocks and fill it with feathers, making your journey through life lighter and more joyful. And this is actually the point of being alive!

Can you break soul contracts?

Absolutely, yes! But I prefer to look at Soul Contracts differently. “Breaking” implies that it’s a POOF! and it’s gone situation, but that isn’t truly the case (and I’ll share why in a moment). So for now, Instead of considering  “breaking” a Soul Contract, think of it as mastering it. It’s like leveling up in a video game where you’ve finally beaten the bad guy that’s been holding you back. You’re not destroying the contract; you’re fulfilling its purpose and moving beyond its limitations.

What happens when you break a soul contract?

The goal, then is not to break the Soul Contract, but instead to master what it came into your life to teach you. Each Soul Contract represents a deep soul lesson, that when you finally understand it at the deepest levels, everything in your life shifts – effortlessly. It’s like the sun breaking through the clouds after a stormy day. You’ll find clarity and freedom you didn’t know were possible. Mastering a Soul Contract doesn’t mean life becomes a cakewalk, but you’ll navigate it with a lighter heart and a clearer mind, ready to embrace your true path because that deep down part of you is no longer directing the show – guiding you to believe things about yourself, (like that you’re unlovable) that simply aren’t true. 

How to break a soul contract?

Ready to turn those rocks in your backpack into feathers? Here are four steps to master your Soul Contract:

Step 1: Acknowledge

First, you have to realize that you can’t BREAK a Soul Contract. It doesn’t work that way. You first must do the work to understand how this agreement has both served and hindered you. It’s like… your understanding is loosening the tooth so that it can be pulled.

Step 2: Awareness

Your second step is awareness. Spend time witnessing the Soul Contract and understanding how it’s been rearing its ugly head in your life. For example, if martyrdom is the issue, notice when you’re giving up your own needs for those of another person. You’ll start to see patterns in your behavior, and as they emerge, it will become easier and easier for you to recognize those times when you tend to sacrifice for others. This takes some time, so don’t expect to get it perfectly right away.

Step 3: Choice

Once you’ve become aware, a new piece will emerge: a moment of clarity. If you normally say, “Yes! I’ll take your Grandma to the grocery store on Sunday so you can stay in and watch football” you’ll now find that there is a small pause just before you give your answer. Within that pause you have created an opportunity: “Do I want to follow the same pattern or do I want to make a different decision this time?” Sometimes you will make the same decision and you will see the same results – but the more aware you are, the more you’ll be able to make a healthier choice.

Step 4. Master 

Now, this is the most exciting part – and it’s also the least work. The first three steps enable the Mastery step to occur. This is because the first three steps begin highlighting the erroneous negative belief you’ve been holding, and that highlight gives those beliefs less and less power. The decisions you’ve been stopping to decide consciously, meld into the subconscious and you begin making these healthy decisions, based on a healthy belief without even thinking about it!  You can learn more about this process in my Soul Contracts book as well!

There is no right or wrong decision here – only what works. It’s a process – a process of realizing the Soul Contract is there, becoming aware of the pattern and how it shows up in your life, and then taking action steps to finally release it from your life. It’s one of the most empowering things you can do as a human!

Common Soul Contracts and Their Impact

Here are five common, yet hidden, Soul Contracts. (Read more Soul Contracts book for a more in depth explanation.) 

Perhaps you recognize some of these within yourself? Perhaps it’s time to take some action.

Soul Contract of Martyrdom

This one’s a doozy. It’s when you sacrifice your needs and desires for the sake of others, thinking it’s noble. But really, it’s like trying to pour from an empty cup. Let’s fill that cup up first, shall we?

Soul Contract of Loyalty

Loyalty is great, but not when it means staying true to people or situations that dim your light. It’s like wearing a pair of too-tight shoes because they were a gift. Sometimes, you just need to give yourself permission to wear something more comfortable.

Soul Contract of Anxiety

Ever felt like worry is your middle name? This contract has you believing that anxiety is just part of who you are and it is a requirement for you to get through life. Spoiler: It’s not. You’re meant to live a life filled with peace and joy, not constant worry.

Want assistance managing the Soul Contract of Anxiety? Try my Heart Magnet tool here.

Soul Contract of Invisibility (aka, don’t rock the boat)

Playing small to avoid conflict? This contract keeps you under the radar, but at the cost of your voice and visibility. Remember, your voice is meant to be heard, not hidden.

Soul Contract of Loneliness

Feeling lonely doesn’t mean you’re meant to be alone. This contract tricks you into thinking solitude is your destiny. In truth, you’re a beacon of light meant to connect with others.

Additional Resources for Breaking a Soul Contract

Mastering Soul Contracts isn’t about breaking bonds; it’s about breaking free from what holds you back, so you can live your most authentic, joy-filled life.

Ready to dive deeper?

  • Check out these articles on my website for more guidance and support on your journey to reclaiming your power and living your truth.
  • Did you know you also have contracts with the animals in your life? Read Animal Lessons to learn all about how your pet is helping you heal!
  • Learn the different types of Soul Contracts before and after embodiment.
  • Watch the What is a Soul Contract video and learn more about the meaning of Soul Contracts.
  • Take it one step further and join one of my classes. These courses are your roadmap to understanding, embracing, and ultimately mastering the soul contracts that shape your life.

Remember, you’re not alone on this journey. Together, we can unpack those rocks, fill our backpacks with feathers, and soar to new heights. Let’s do this!