As I write this, my husband, Kevin, is driving up to New Hampshire to go Skydiving. Now, I don’t know what I was thinking when I bought him that Groupon for Father’s Day – but the day has finally come. (Obviously, I did not join him on this trip. Skydiving is not my thing – an all-day meditative hike, now THAT is for me! But falling through the air at 120mph – I’ll take a pass!)
Kevin left just an hour ago, and after I ran outside to give him a last goodbye kiss, jokingly saying, “in case I never see you again” I began thinking – did I really need to give him that one last goodbye kiss? Is that one last kiss going to confirm my love for him in a way that he doesn’t already know? I thought back to all of the work I do with animals – and how my actions reflected the concerns of so many people who are in pain around their animal’s passing, worrying that their animals didn’t know how loved they were or they feel terrible because they didn’t get to have that one last goodbye moment – and I realized I was doing the same thing!
People are ALWAYS telling me they aren’t sure their pet knew how loved they were and animals are ALWAYS telling me they are completely aware of their human’s love for them. In fact, in almost fifteen years of professional communication with animals, I’ve never once had an animal tell me they couldn’t tell or were questioning their human’s love and there is a very specific reason for this:
Animals are tapped in to our deepest selves. Yes, they also connect with us and the physical world around us – but they also connect to our souls. They know what our purposes are, our wants, our desires, and our fears are. They even know what we need to do to evolve in life! With that type of connection, of course animals are going to be able to tell that we love them, even if we have a bad day or forget to take them for a walk or have to travel a lot etc.
So, if you missed out on the “perfect” goodbye with your beloved pet or if you are feeling guilty because work has been so hectic that you haven’t been able to spend as much time with your horse/cat/pig/bird… know that animals don’t hold grudges! They look at the big picture of YOU. It’s not about that last moment, or those last days – it’s about the long haul. How you live, the actions you take, how you feel on an every day basis and who you really are – THAT’s what your pet taps in to! These are the things that convey your enduring love to your animals every moment and in the end this is what really matters.
Regardless, it still made ME feel good to run outside to give Kevin one last kiss goodbye – but I realize HE didn’t need it.