I just had a little revelation that I wanted to share with you.
It’s all about my failed 2015 goals.
I was scrolling through the notes app on my phone and I came across a note called, “Long Term Goals” dated 1/9/15. I’d forgotten I’d written my 2015 goals there and I was excited to see what a (hopefully) awesome job I’d done for myself during the past twelve months.
So, I opened the note and started reading. And this is where the trouble started…
Of the seventeen goals for 2015 I had written down, I had only achieved one.
Now, a realization like this could have made me feel terrible about myself and for a few minutes I did run straight down the “what am I doing with my life?” road.
But then, in the midst of this “woe is me” rant in my head, (and before I had a chance to consciously get myself together) I read through the goals again.
I noticed that, of the 16 goals I didn’t achieve, I still cared about three. Thirteen of those goals just didn’t fit what I wanted in my life anymore! And the three goals that I hadn’t yet achieved were pretty lofty and realistically it is going to take another three or four years to complete them anyway.
Once I realized this, I started to laugh about what I had thought I wanted to achieve in 2015. Those things had so little to do with where I’m headed now!
But this got me thinking – I had no idea what 2015 held in store for me when last year began, I only intuitively knew that life was going to change (which really isn’t saying much.)
Because I was using my goal list to gauge my success each year, I was locking myself in to only being able to feel successful if I achieved every single thing on the list!
And in the end, it really didn’t matter. It’s not like I wasn’t working hard (I was) and it’s not like I didn’t have lots of other successes (I did).
So my only choice, other than to beat myself up about my failed 2015 goals, was to use looking back at my list as an opportunity to see how much I’ve grown – and after being struck by my old goals like that, I can only say – wow, then that must mean I’ve grown a lot!
My point in sharing is this: I know that many of the people who are attracted to my work are very type A, go-getter, take-charge kind of people. It’s because I am that way as well – however, there is something very special to be said for sometimes not meeting every challenge and taking a moment to step back and look at what is really going on. For me, the tremendous change in my life goals was about inner growth and changing the way I present myself to the world to reflect that.
The things that I’m writing on my 2016 list are very different from my 2015 list – and I probably won’t achieve many of those either by 2017. But those goals will provide me with a point in time that I can use as an anchor to understand my own growth within.
So, I’m taking some risks this year, after all – I’ve really got nothing to lose! How will YOU use your goals for 2016?