I’m psychic. As a kid growing up in the Midwest I didn’t know what that was. In fact, it just seemed like something was wrong with me. I was so more sensitive than everyone around me! On the bright side though I was the best listener and helper for my friends in need. As I grew older, however helping those friends in need started to tire me out. It seemed like everyone I knew was in turmoil and wanted my ear or advice. It became so tiring for me that at one point I considered walking away from my friends because at least that way I would have some peace and quiet!
What I didn’t understand at the time is that when you’re psychic, you have to be extra vigilant in your friendships. I just wanted to help the people around me, but I was doing it at my own expense and I was creating dependent relationships (my friends needed my psychic advice). It’s taken more than fifteen years or trial and error, but I finally know how to manage my friendships to keep them in balance. Being a good psychic friend isn’t always easy, but it’s always the best choice in the long run.
Here are five important things I’ve learned about being a good psychic friend:
- Wait until you are asked for advice before offering or giving it. Rather than jumping on some else’s “challenge” because you intuitively know the answer, allow that person to move through their process at their own pace. If and when they are ready assume they will ask.
- I know this seems mean but sometimes you actually need to say, “no” when asked for help. Often people want rescue rather than advice – if you think your friend might want the former, it’s time to back off. People learn from their challenges – so handing the “fix” over to someone else can take away from everything they could subsequently use to grow.
- Although you could probably have many intuitive insights about what your friend is saying, it’s best to turn down the volume of your intuition while they are talking. Let them have their own experience!
- Walk away. Since, as a psychic you can probably feel the angst of your friends, you may find it hard to take care of yourself at the same time. If you’re energetically and emotionally clear, you can listen to your friend’s woes ‘til the cows come home – however, if not – just walk away. At least temporarily! Spend some time rejuvenating your energy, getting exercise, meditating – whatever it takes to get you nice and clear –and then you can go back to supporting your friend.
- Ask for it. Directly. Many sensitive people have a hard time asking for help because they don’t want to cause any drain on their friends (they know only too well what that is like!). But in a truly balanced friendship, no matter how sensitive you are, you can still ask your friends for information, guidance and assistance. Give your friends a chance to help you – the way you have helped them so many times!
These five simple rules could make all the difference in creating happy, healthy, supportive friendships with people who really rock your world. Some of these tips may take a bit to master, but eventually – if you keep working on it – you’ll get it.