Why Can’t I Train My Dog?

So, as many of you probably already know, in late Fall my family rescued a beautiful dog named Tuukka. According to the fake, made-up birthday we created for her, she’s just about 11 months old now. We also splurged and tried out the Amazon DNA test. What fun! And oh! What we learned! Tuukka is a mix of a whole bunch of stubborn breeds: she’s part Great Pyrenees, bulldog, bullterrier, beagle with a lot of other stuff mixed in.

baddogAnd that stubbornness has certainly made sense when looking at our time with her over the past few months!

Obviously, because of the work I do, I spend a good portion of my life working with animals through animal communication, soul contract mastery and more.

And you would THINK that that would make me an expert on my own dog, right?

Well … I love Tuukka. She’s the very best behaved dog in the world during the day when it’s just the two of us hanging out. The problem is that when you add in any other people like husband or son, visitors to the house, or out-of-the ordinary occurrences of any kind, she can’t control her excitement–and at 70 pounds so far, neither can we!

As a result, my husband brought up the idea of getting help with her training. At first, I wouldn’t even consider it. After all, I’m an Animal Communicator. Shouldn’t I be able to train my dog perfectly without assistance?

But after a weekend of Tuukka not allowing anyone to leave the yard without barking insanely, I had to give it more thought.

And it was my own work connecting deeply with animals that allowed me to finally realize what I already knew to be true.

There is an innate agreement between an animal and a person, in which an animal agrees to assist that person in his/her evolution in some way.

This means, that no matter how “awesome” I am with animals, or dogs, or even with Tuukka, she’s going to do something to challenge me to grow, learn, or accept something.

In this case, she’s pushing me to accept that I can’t control everything. I can’t make my husband and my son do the training exactly right, and I can’t make Tuukka chill out around them or around exciting things – I have to allow everyone to have their own journey with her.

So, I’ve finally come around to accept and embrace the idea that we’re going to be doing some intense professional training with my baby. Not because I am a failure as an animal communicator, but because I am accepting that I STILL have things to learn from the animals!

If you’re having challenges with an animal in your life, I urge you to look at the big picture. What is this animal trying to teach you? About control like my Tuukka? About being the boss of your own life like my Kelso did? About taking a leadership position like my Bella did?

Understanding that connection between you and your animal will help both of you in much the same way that it is helping my husband, son, Tuukka and me!

11 replies
  1. Aimé
    Aimé says:

    Omg. I am so struggling with this issue, thank you. Please keep us updated if your training works. I thought I “should” be able to speak to my VERY vocal hounds (three of them, mind you!) to make them stop the insanity. Duh. Ok, onward! 😎

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  2. Holly
    Holly says:

    I am a Cesar Milan fan—–Energy!! your family members, or perhaps another dog who is calm and balanced, she will receive. I have watched so many of his shows, my belief is it makes sense for those of us who need assistance, much love to you and Tuukka!

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  3. Lori
    Lori says:

    I have taken a class with you and another animal communicator. The second one had me learn talking to her dog because she says we can rarely get it right since we know them too well and don’t trust our judgement. Makes sense to me. What a joy to have!

    On a sadder note, I just did Reiki on a baby bird that my husband found that was barely breathing. I was so emotional when the baby passed as I knew the moment from when he suddenly started breathing quickly, and my hands were no longer active. I am surprised by my emotion. I suppose it is gratitude and the ability to have made a difference.

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  4. Bianka
    Bianka says:

    Thanks Danielle for this blogpost, you hit the nail right on the head with this. I have a wonderful dog, but there is just this one thing that she is brilliant in her work as long as I trust her and if I don’t she just stops performing. I guess she is teaching me a great lesson about trusting and letting go the desire to control everything, wow, thanks for sharing this.

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  5. Melissa
    Melissa says:

    Brilliant! As a proffessional dog trainer and animal empath,I have always found that training issues were healing issues with the animals companion. I also only train by positive methods to honor the animals spirit!
    We have agreements to be together and hopefully we humans can realize in the end they ate here to teach us Love!
    Go Danielle….people listen to and trust you
    Many Blessings

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  6. sue montalbano
    sue montalbano says:

    Thank you for sharing your story. This made me think about my situation. I rescued a third dog one and half years ago and she attacks one of my other dog Bella. She gets anxious and attacks which is scary as they both hurt each other.
    This has happened at least five times so I decided to work with a trainer. My husband and I are wondering if this will work it self out or she needs to be placed in a home with no other dogs. Also reading your story I ask myself what soul contract do I have with our dog? I love her and want this to work out. Time will tell.

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  7. Elizabeth Barren
    Elizabeth Barren says:

    Hi Danielle ….It is so funny to come home tonight and read this from you. Today I was at a dog-friendly family party where I met a woman who was telling me a similar dog story to yours. I told her that I knew and animal communicator, and that’s the basic gist of your theory is that the pets issues are always the owners issues. And if we work on our stuff, it will clear up the issues with that pet. She said yeah that really makes sense. Then I come home and read my email from you…hahaha. Rock on sister:)

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  8. Dawn
    Dawn says:

    What do I do about a puppy who won’t stop biting people?! He’s hurting everyone and the kids are afraid of him. Other than biting…he is an amazing dog. I’m desperate to help Timber.

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  9. Mary
    Mary says:

    I have a different problem. My son came home with the most admit bull Rottweiler puppy who is now 4 years old. He is now my dog lol he did choose me but he loves everyone never destroyed anything doesn’t try to get food from the garbage and will kiss you all day if you let him. He will share his food and bones with anyone. He is just afraid of everything!! Thunder, rain, noises, the dark, the worst is fireworks he shakes for hours it’s so upsetting for me. He’s so scared of everything he hates to be home alone. He is not really home alone for more than 4 or 5 hours and not everyday. I try taking him for rides in the car which he loves but he is nuts and can’t relax. If he sees another dog he barks and will go towards them but to play. Problem is he doesn’t know how to play and he is strong doesn’t know his own strength. I feel quilty leaving him home I actually don’t go out sometimes because he will go by the door and try to block me from leaving. I leave the lights on if it’s night time and I put the hgtv channel on lol everyone makes fun of me but it’s the only channel that isn’t scary. I found a dog sitter who I will meet next week but if he fogey along with the other dogs she watches I might as well kiss my summer good bye

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