She didn’t like her “sister”

shutterstock_155209676Happy Monday morning! It’s time to get back to the regular work week.

Anyway, I wanted to tell you about this cat and dog (and human) that I recently worked with.

The human, we’ll call her Laura, brought her cat and dog to me so that I could figure out why the cat was always attacking the dog.

As I connected with Shelly (the cat), she expressed herself as, “pissed.” Yep. That was the exact word and feeling I received from Shelly.

Shelly told me that she wasn’t getting any attention because her sister, the dog, Lola was hogging it all. She showed me pictures of Lola cuddling on the sofa, Lola rubbing legs in the kitchen, Lola smooching Laura at bedtime…

While I believed what Shelly was telling me, I decided there must be more to the story than that. After all, someone who takes the time and spends the money to come see me for a private session is probably not someone who is going to neglect one of their animals.

I relayed the message to Laura, but I asked her a question as well.

“Laura, is there a reason you may be giving Lola more attention than Shelly?”

And Laura said, “No! Of course not! But I have to treat Lola differently because she’s a rescue and we think she was abused before we got her.”

Aha! Now, I knew exactly what Shelly (the cat) was all upset about!

Here’s the thing about animals – in their natural environments, they live in the present moment. Given the chance, they don’t hang on to their past. Only people do. Only people care about an animal’s history.

I can’t even begin to tell you how many sessions I’ve done with an animal and their person where the person wants me to find out from the animal what their past was like, and the animal is saying to me, again and again, “Uh… no. Why do I have to talk about that? Who cares! It’s over! Let’s talk about the type of dinner I want to eat.”

As humans, we feel it’s the nicest thing we could possibly to, to give someone special treatment because of what they’ve been through in the past – but animals don’t revel in that.

Animals live in the NOW and they want you to, too.

So, what was the fix for Shelly, Lola, and Laura? It was simply for Laura to let go of Lola’s past and give both animals the love and respect and balance they deserve in their lives now.

Yeah, it’s that easy!

I’m sure you’ll be amazed, as have many before you, by the power of NOT holding on to the past.

Let your animals demonstrate this for you right now… Feel free to share you own experience with this below so others can learn how true this is!

Love and Light,

Danielle

5 replies
  1. Mary
    Mary says:

    We have two rescue cats. Our first one was Suki & everything was great until our second one came along. Her name is Wendy & she really irritates Suki.
    I believe Suki is staying away for longer periods of time (all night sometimes) because Wendy bothers her so much.
    Wendy is a bit of a terror. She is a bit clingy & needy. She wakes me up several times a night….. I do close the door on occasion because I need my sleep but she will loudly meow & scratch the door for a good amount of time.
    Within the last couple months one of them has been spraying, I need to figure out who & why.
    I’d really like for all of us to get along 🙁
    Your story resonates with me because Wendy was found as a kitten & was underweight & sickly. I felt terrible for her so I really went all out trying to help her. Now she acts like a brat!!!!

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  2. Janet
    Janet says:

    Well this is kind of confusing to me. I have two cats that were adopted/rescued. My first one Penny was feral and picked up at 8 months old, altered and put up for adoption. they didn’t know if she could fit in, but my daughter picked her up for me and she is adjusting very nicely except she does not like to be picked up and held. she squeals and squirms as if she were still the street cat. My other cat Pluto ( male ) was in an over loaded house full of cats. He was pushed around and kind of ignored by human interaction. he is very loving but also does not like being held. Puts his head under your armpit till you put him down. They both, amazingly so, get along together perfectly, which thrills me to no end. But if they don’t care about their past, why do they have an aversion for being handled. they love when you stroke them, pet them or brush them. I can even massage their toes, but hold them…no way.

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    • Naixieli
      Naixieli says:

      I agree with Danielle that animals don’t hold on to the past, But I think they can be in some way influenced in their personality by their past experiences. You could try to think in what way you are like them and you don’t like to be held. Maybe you can feel more confortable being held or you can understand why your cats don’t feel so confortable being held.

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  3. Maureen
    Maureen says:

    This really rings true for me and my situation with a beautiful chow mix puppy that I adopted when living in Nashville years ago. She had been abandoned at about 5 weeks of age in a box on the side of the road!! The man who rescued her couldn’t keep her because he had 6 dogs of his own, but he got her all prepared for adoption and that is when I discovered her (quite ‘by accident’ as these things happen… haha definitely an angelically guided meeting). Anyway, she was always extremely mistrustful of anyone but me – so not the friendliest of girls. She would bare her teeth but not follow through with anything because it was fear-based and so she would then just hide behind me. Well for the first several years I would ‘explain her behavior’ – due to her difficult beginning, she is very vulnerable, etc etc. until one day it hit me like a brick. “You know enough about ENERGY!! Stop replaying the story!” And so I did. She was still shy but my own behavior and new mindset definitely had an impact on the level of her nervous energy. Sorry to be so long-winded here.:) But I appreciate you sharing this. (I also just adopted a 7 year old golden retriever rescue who had been abandoned and this was good timing to remind me, just LOVE him NOW… if he wants me to know anything about his past, he will let me know.) Blessings all!!

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  4. Mary
    Mary says:

    I live in Stockton, Ca & a story broke a couple days ago that I am deeply saddened/angry/etc about. I could not read or listen to the entire story because it is too horrific. I don’t even want to share it here….. I need to know if these animals that were rented out for sexual abuse should get “therapy” from Danielle or another communicator to help get over the emotional trauma or to be able to share where their injuries are so the vet can help? Or will they move on from this & be able to “be in the present?”
    Thanks ????

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